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  • #473

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    Mammy’s Top Ten Tips for Getting Fit without Trying

    1. Speed up: move up a gear and do everything slightly faster.
    2. Go to the top: park on the top floor of the multi-story car park and walk down the stairs.
    3. Do everything to music: put on some upbeat music and move to the beat.
    4. Change the pace: walk as fast as you can for a count of 10, then at a normal pace for a count of ten, then speed up again – and so on and so forth.
    5. Make small changes: walk a little further, a little faster every day.
    6. Reward yourself: treat yourself to something you really enjoy (preferably something healthy) AFTER you’ve done some physical work.
    7. Find a buddy: it’s not so easy to find an excuse not to exercise if you know that if you don’t go, your buddy won’t go either so you both lose out.
    8. Move away from the door: drive to the far end of the parking lot and walk back.
    9. Do it for a cause: sign up for to walk a marathon or climb a mountain for a charity.
    10. Celebrate your milestones: Every time you can do a little more than you did before, congratulate yourself for getting up off your backside and moving that body.

    http://www.askmammy.ie – because everybody needs a Mammy!

  • #1114

    Smile Therapy
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    Six ways to Listen Better……

    Remember when you were in school? Instead of listening to the history, lecture, you might have been thinking about an upcoming dance. Suddenly you were catapulted back to reality. The teacher was calling on you to recap her lesson on the Louisiana Purchase.
    You don’t want to be in a jam like that when you’re meeting with investors, buyers, or sellers. So here’s how to avoid tuning out:

    1. Focus on the speaker’s eyes and mouth.
    2. Visualize the speaker’s words.
    3. Take notes.
    4. Ask questions but don’t interupt.
    5. Eliminate distractions.
    6. Listen with your whole body: Sit up straight, nod, and maintain eye contact.

    This should help in your next meeting.

    ST – Staff

  • #1115

    Smile Therapy
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    The best way…..

    to get the last word in is to apologize….Hmm……

    ST – Staff

  • #1116

    Smile Therapy
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    When some one grieves….

    We either have been, or will be, put in the position of
    comforting someone who is grieving. That is an important role
    played by good friends. The most common question I hear on such
    occasions is, “What should I say?” We want to help, but
    we feel helpless to make a difference in the face of such
    tragedy. .
    I often remember a story told by Joseph Bayly when I struggle to
    say the “right thing” to someone who is hurting. Mr. Bayly lost
    three children to death over the course of several years. He
    wrote a book called, VIEW FROM A HEARSE,
    (Lifejourney Books, 1992) in which he talks about his grief. He
    says this about comforting those who grieve:
    “I was sitting, torn by grief. Someone came and talked to me of
    God’s dealings, of why it happened, of hope beyond the grave. He
    said things I knew were true. I was unmoved, except to wish he
    would go away. He finally did. Someone else came and sat beside
    me. He didn’t talk. He didn’t ask leading questions. He just sat
    with me for an hour or more, listened when I said something,
    answered briefly, prayed simply, left. I was moved. I was comforted.
    I hated to see him go.”
    I have found Joseph Bayly’s experience to be excruciatingly
    typical. Both men wanted to help. Both men cared. But only one
    truly comforted. The difference was that one tried to make him
    feel better, while the other just let him feel. One tried to say
    the right things. The other listened. One told him it would be
    all right. The other shared his pain.

    TAS – Creator of Smile-therapy.com

  • #1117

    Smile Therapy
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    Importance of Balance…

    Why is balance so important? It’s because how you do in one dimension of life will affect the other three. Think about it. If one of your car’s tires is out of balance, all four tires will wear unevenly, not just the one. It’s hard to be friendly (heart) when you’re exhusted (body). It also works the other way. When you’re feeling motivated and in tune with yourself (soul), it’s easier to focus on your studies (mind) and to be more friendly (heart).

    ST – Staff

  • #1118

    Smile Therapy
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    She is Gone…..

    You can shed tears that she is gone or you can smile because she lived.
    You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
    Your heart can by empty because you can’t see her or you can be full of the love you shared.
    You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
    You can remember her and only that she’s gone or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
    You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back or you can do what she’d want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

    ST – Staff

  • #1119

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    No fear of flying……

    Bob Hoover may be the greatest aerobatics
    pilot alive. He’s been a test pilot,
    combat pilot, and prisoner of war. He’s wrestled
    out-of-control jet fighters back to the
    ground, fought fires in the air, and crashed
    more times than he can count.
    One crash duling a test flight of a Super
    Sabre jet broke Hoover’s back and almost
    killed him. Just as soon as he recovered, Bob
    Hoover climbed into the cockpit of another
    Super Sabre and took it up for another test
    flight. As he tells it in his easy Tennessee
    drawl, “You gotta get back into the cockpit of
    the bird that bit ya.”
    While Hoover is courageous and willing
    to take risks, he’s not foolhardy or reckless. If
    he were, he wouldn’t be alive today. But
    Hoover knows that any fear we don’t defeat
    will defeat us. So he determined to face down his fear.
    Wally Amos, who became a multimillionaire
    with his Famous Amos chocolate chip
    cookies, puts it another way: He believes
    there have been no negative experiences in
    his life, because in his view there’s a lesson
    within every experience.
    Whether you crash in a plane, get thrown
    from a horse, go bankrupt, or find your marriage
    or career falling apart, you have the
    same choice to make:
    Allow fear to paralyze you.
    Or, as Bob Hoover would say, “Get back
    into the cockpit of the bird that bit ya.”

    ST – Staff

  • #1120

    Smile Therapy
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    Mammy’s Tips for Getting Fit without Trying

    1. Speed up: move up a gear and do everything slightly faster.
    2. Go to the top: park on the top floor of the multi-story car park and walk down the stairs.
    3. Do everything to music: put on some upbeat music and move to the beat.
    4. Change the pace: walk as fast as you can for a count of 10, then at a normal pace for a count of ten, then speed up again – and so on and so forth
    5. Make small changes: walk a little further, a little faster every day.
    6. Reward yourself: treat yourself to something you really enjoy (preferably something healthy) AFTER you’ve done some physical work
    7. Find a buddy: it’s not so easy to find an excuse not to exercise if you know that if you don’t go, your buddy won’t go either so you both lose out.
    8. Move away from the door: drive to the far end of the parking lot and walk back.
    9. Do it for a cause: sign up for to walk a marathon or climb a mountain for a charity
    10. Keep moving: not matter what you’re doing – standing in line, cooking dinner, watching TV – tone up your muscles by pulling in your belly, tightening your butt or stretching.
    11. Celebrate your milestones: every time you can do a little more than you did before, congratulate yourself for getting up off your backside and moving that body.

    Mammy

  • #1121

    Smile Therapy
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    when I’m down, how do i pump myself up?

    When I’m down (which is never for long), I ask myself what brought about that feeling if it is not immediately obvious. On understanding and having an awareness of what triggered the feeling, I am then able to get rid of it by seeing the situatiion that triggered the feeling for what it is or was.

    That is, the situation was either so insignificant that it is not worth worrying about or it was back then in the past and it is time to let go of it.
    Jennifer McLeod

    Jennifer McLeod – England

  • #1122

    Smile Therapy
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    God’s “To Do List”

    I have found the most fabulous book recently. “103 Ways to Be an Angel and Do God’s Work on Earth” by Dr. Ron Wolfson. This book is written with a Jewish flare, but I think people of all faiths can learn from it! To condense it down, the author reminds us that we are God’s partners here on earth, made in his image – our ultimate purpose in life is to do the tasks that God has set forth for us to do! Comfort the sick, visit the elderly, take care of children and animals, treat one another with respect, care for and respect our earth. Simple stuff, but so worth it!

    Janice Roth, St. Petersburg FL

  • #1123

    Smile Therapy
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    The Power of Saying, “I’m sorry.”

    If something has gone awry in a relationship of any kind, it’s easier to say “I’m sorry.” There’s a powerful feeling that comes into you for releasing those two simple words.

    Grammie

  • #1124

    Smile Therapy
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    Energy booster

    Day by day, in every way,I am becoming more and more
    Healthy
    Wealthy
    Loving
    Blissful and
    Enlightened

    Loving you all Praveen

  • #1125

    Smile Therapy
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    I will not speak ill of any body and always speak all the good I know of everybody.

    Dale Carnegie says – “Drop the 3 Cs from our life – CONDEMN, CRITICIZE, COMPLAIN”

    * When we Condemn, Criticize or Complain, we are churning lots of negative energies around us which in turn gets deposited in our mind.

    * We should not speak ill about our parents since they are the ones who give us what they felt best for us. We should avoid giving up of a long term relationship (parents) just for the sake of emotional vent to any short team acquaintances like friends who will never be interested in our life to the extent our parents are.

    * If at all we need to criticize about somebody, we must do only FIRST PERSON CRITICISM since that will enable them to correct themselves.

    * We should not speak ill about the spouse or the family in the presence of children since the same will get deposited deep in their mind and become a part of their DNA. It will be difficult for us to remove the same from their mind later.

    I WILL NOT SPEAK ILL OF ANYBODY AND ALWAYS SPEAK ALL THE GOOD I KNOW OF EVERYBODY.

    Loving you all, Praveen.

  • #1126

    Smile Therapy
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    self-development

    life is worth living when you understand the reality of the life which you live.

    4u2luv

  • #1127

    Smile Therapy
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    Inspirational Classic from the 1950’s….

    Today I realised that there is at least one whole generation who has never read Desiderata.
    When I was a teenager, everyone I knew had a poster of these words on their wall!
    For a reason I can’t explain I feel inspired to share it with the world tonight.
    So, as a reminder to those of you of a certain age and with love to anyone who’s never seen it before, I give you Desiderata
    Pass it on!

    Desiderata

    Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
    and remember what peace there may be in silence.
    As far as possible without surrender
    be on good terms with all persons.
    Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
    and listen to others,
    even the dull and the ignorant;
    they too have their story.
    Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
    they are vexations to the spirit.
    If you compare yourself with others,
    you may become vain and bitter;
    for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
    Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
    Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
    it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
    Exercise caution in your business affairs;
    for the world is full of trickery.
    But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
    many persons strive for high ideals;
    and everywhere life is full of heroism.
    Be yourself.
    Especially, do not feign affection.
    Neither be cynical about love;
    for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
    it is as perennial as the grass.
    Take kindly the counsel of the years,
    gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
    Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
    But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
    Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
    Beyond a wholesome discipline,
    be gentle with yourself.
    You are a child of the universe,
    no less than the trees and the stars;
    you have a right to be here.
    And whether or not it is clear to you,
    no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
    Therefore be at peace with God,
    whatever you conceive Him to be,
    and whatever your labours and aspirations,
    in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
    With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
    it is still a beautiful world.
    Be cheerful.
    Strive to be happy.
    Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

    Mammy, Republic of Ireland

  • #1128

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    The Ten Most IMPT.Things??( How do you stack up)?

    Here are the 10 most important things to have in life.

    Rate yourself on a 1-10- scale and see what you are good at and what needs improvement.

    1. Love( the special feeling that makes you feel warm and wonderful)
    2. Respect(treating others as well as you’ d like to be treated).
    3. Appreciation( to be grateful for all the good things life has to offer).
    4. Happiness(The full enjoyment of each moment. A smiling face).
    5. Forgiveness(the ability to let things be without anger).
    6. Sharing( the joy of giving without thought of receiving).
    7. Honesty(the quality of always telling the truth).
    8. Integrity(the purity of doing whats right no matter what).
    9. Compassion(the essence of feeling anothers pain, while easing their hurt).
    10. Peace(the reward for living the 10 most important things)!

    Mammy, Ireland

  • #1129

    Smile Therapy
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    A SMILEY!

    IF YOU ALWAYS DO…WHAT YOU’VE ALWAYS DONE
    YOU’LL ALWAYS GET…WHAT YOU’VE ALWAYS GOTTEN???
    TRY DOING IT ANOTHER WAY….
    START TODAY!!!!

    SharonS of Sunny Fla.

  • #1130

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    Encouraging and Motivating people in a group/team

    Give everyone in the group a 3×5 card and have each person write his/her name at the top of the card. Then have each person hand it to the person to their right. That person will write the words “You inspire me because…” and then finish the sentence. This is based on how the person named at the top of the card inspires them. This person will hand it to the person to their right and will look at the name and finish the sentence once again. This can be done a few times depending on the size of the group. The last person who ends up with the card will go to the one whose name is written at the top of the card and will read off all of the “You inspire me because phrases”.

    Carrie Gendreau, Littleton, NH

  • #1131

    Smile Therapy
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    Rapport – Getting Comfortable with Uncomfortable People

    If you’re uncomfortable with someone, for example, a boss or someone you don’t know well, lightly imitate some of his/her physical behavior including breathing. This will increase your rapport and make you feel more comfortable. The other person will never know what you’re doing. He will feel more comfortable with you too.

    Jean Tracy, MSS from http://www.KidsDiscuss.com

  • #1132

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    How to get people to DO what they SAY

    After having a conversation and agreeing on a particular action, how do you make sure the person will follow through with that they said?

    One way to get your chances greatly improved is by asking one question at the end.

    Do I have your WORD on that?

    You’ll find people’s actions much more accountable.
    Give it a try.

    Bob Nozik, California

  • #1133

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    Need an Instant Upper??

    Instant Uplift:
    If you’re feeling sad or scared (even a little bit) the chances are that your posture reflects your feelings. To feel better instantly, change your posture! This is a simple Taoist exercise that never fails to work and can be done sitting in your car, standing in line, cooking dinner – anywhere, anytime!
    Take a deep breath and let it go. As you exhale, relax your shoulders.
    Lengthen your neck and push your pelvis forward slightly. If you’re standing, bend your knees a little. Now, just raise your breastbone and feel your attitude change for the better.
    When adopt this posture you immediately stand taller, breath deeper and feel stronger.

    Mammy, Ireland

  • #1134

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    Uncomfortable DEALING with SOMEONE? try this

    If you are uncomfortable with someone, for example, a boss or someone you don’t know well, lightly imitate some of his/her current behavior including breathing. This will increase your rapport and make you feel more comfortable. The other person will never know and will feel more comfortable with you too.

    Jean T, Washington State

  • #1135

    Smile Therapy
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    Its your life

    After all its your life, then why give chance to others to rule your life

    RS Happs

  • #1136

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    Someone ask you to read something.. WOW THEM

    If someone asks you to read something
    PERSONAL from them( a paper, their website, a book, etc), impress the hell out of them.

    RECITE something that they wrote, such as “I really enjoyed Uncle Bills comment about how to deal with xoxoxo.”

    They will know that: first you read it, and second, you remembered something that they specifically wrote.

    Try it, you’ll impress them greatly.People just want a little care and appreciation.

    Tim, Camillus, NY

  • #1137

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    Are you a BLAME BUSTER?

    What is a Blame Buster, are you one and do you want to be one?

    A blame buster is just as it sounds.

    Stop Blaming things, and people, and events.

    Blame serves ZERO constructive purpose.
    Blame is also ALWAYS in the PAST.

    Sulk to yourself for a minute, then move on.
    Remove blame from your arsenal of actions and words

    BM, Syracuse

  • #1138

    Smile Therapy
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    A word about RESPONSIBILITY

    It’s very possible that Responsibility may be the single most IGNORED TRAIT today.

    We ALL need to take Responsibility.
    We ALL need to be held accountable for our actions.

    I once heard a quote that “if every person swept in front of their own porch, the entire street would be clean.”

    Clean your own porch. Be responsible.

    Doug, Central NY

  • #1139

    Smile Therapy
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    Million Dollar Thought #1

    Here’s a Million Dollar Thought::

    If every person SWEPT in front of their own door, the entire street would be clean.

    In other words, less talking about others and set examples to the world from yourself.
    Take care of your own and if each does that.. WOW..what a difference the collective will see.

    Wise Old Man

  • #1140

    Smile Therapy
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    Vent By Phone – A Unique Support Help Line

    Vent By Phone, LLC is a unique concept that was created as a means for people to vent over the phone without being judged. No advice is given, and because their support phone lines are anonymous, callers are not required to provide a name to the listener.
    Unlike venting over social networks where there is always a paper or video trail, there is no trail behind venting by phone.

    Vent By Phone, LLC does not work with your health care provider and does not offer any advice. Their service is strictly over the phone and is for people who want to be heard, and who don’t need a shrink.

    There is an advantage of being able to pick up the phone and vent impulsively and privately about your frustrations and know that someone is listening. You can express yourself better and feel better without having to worry about your conversation having a paper or video trail. Sometimes people want to be heard and know that someone is on the phone listening attentively.

    Now I am sure that this will cause a lot of controversy in the mental health community, with their views on managing stress, anger, etc., but there are people looking for alternative ways to alleviate daily stresses. What better way than to pick up the phone and vent your anger, frustration or rejection.

    http://www.ventbyphone.com

    Georgia

  • #1141

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    Remembering Names

    A tip I learned to remember names when you meet someone is to pick out some characteristic about them that corresponds to their name. Ex. Met a woman named \’Sandy\’. Her hair was \”sandy\” colored..I always remembered her name.

    Amy L, Finger Lakes, NY

  • #1142

    Smile Therapy
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    Timeless Wisdom: A History Lesson

    “A person with an expirience is never at the mercy of a person with a theory.”

    I don’t know who said the above. Please add the c

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